One step at a time

Creating an enjoyable journey for myself and my family.

Sunday, June 5, 2011

Crazy Awesome

So you may have heard, we're moving to Japan in 19 days. So here's the explanation of how all of this came to be:

I've been working for an advertising agency for the past nine months and I quit that job unexpectedly on Tuesday. How I came to quit is an entirely separate story; a story I'll tell you all soon enough. For now, let's talk about Japan.

So I quit my job on Tuesday. Tuesday night I started looking for a new job. Isn't that totally me? :) I know I'm crazy. I checked all the usual places like monster.com, ksl.com and craigslist, I even spoke to a few recruiters. Then I found the ad:

We are now recruiting in the Provo/Orem area for individuals who are interested in teaching English in Japan.

Have you ever thought about traveling to Japan? Well now is a great opportunity! We are recruiting for schools in the south part of Japan, away from the Tokyo area.

Teaching English in Japan can be a very rewarding experience and it pays well!

Requirements:

1-Must currently reside in the Provo/Orem area.
2-Must be a native English speaker.
3-Must have an associates or bachelors degree from an accredited college or university.
4-Experience teaching is desired but not necessary.

Most of the schools offer these amazing benefits:

1-relocation expenses 50%-100% paid.
2-salary 250,000 Yen to 300,000 Yen per month.
(The current exchange rate to dollars is $3081.50 to $3697.80)
3-apartments that are set up and furnished.
4-completion bonuses about 100,000 yen.
And many more!

If you are interested please submit your resume, and picture (optional, but strongly suggested in order to accelerate the hiring process) to englishteachersofjapan@gmail.com. And get ready for an experience of a lifetime!

I thought, "Wow, this would be SO cool! What if we did this?! How awesome!" I didn't really think much of it. I just emailed it to Adam and didn't give it a second thought. I hate pipe dreams and I hate wasting time so I didn't allow myself either before moving ahead with the job search. Then Adam replied to my email and said he wanted to learn more. I was thrilled. I started emailing the head teacher at the GEM school in Japan. I asked a million questions and got a million answers...I liked the answers.

Adam will be working full-time, I will be working part-time to accommodate more time with my kids. Our contract is for one year...we can stay longer if we like. Opportunities for advancing are sure to come. Our students will be less advantaged Japanese children generally between the ages of 2-8. We will be expected to manage a stressful schedule of singing head-sholders-knees-toes and playing twister. All children in Japan take English classes starting in 4th grade...but status and opportunities in Japan come to those who speak English, so all parents want their kids to speak as much English as possible, as soon as possible. If we want to make more money we can teach "private lessons" that involve visiting a student in their home or having students to our home to play with our daughters and help me cook or talking through simple everyday tasks.

Kids in Japan start school at age 3, based on March birthdays. Mia is 4, Teryn is 3 and her birthday is March 2. Nice. So I'll take the kids to school every day and pick them up and teach Japanese kids English while my babies are learning Japanese. Adam will work full-time. We'll have Sundays and Mondays off. We'll live in a 2 bedroom apartment in Kenonji which is subsidized by the GEM school. Many of the teachers at the GEM school are from Salt Lake, some have families, some are LDS. Those we spoke to have loved their time in Japan and don't want to leave. Others are there for the money; they've paid off all their debts, they save enough to live on for years after they leave, and others just love the healthcare and education.

We will be 12 hours south of the nuclear reactor, 10 hours south of Tokyo, 3 hours south of Osaka and right on the beach. We're told that the climate is similar to the climate in South Carolina. Humid and warm. We will try to adjust to a Japanese diet as soon as possible. We'll be eating a lot of rice and fish. We have American food outlets in our city including McDonald's and KFC! I quit my job but I could never quit KFC. We're told our money will disappear if we try to eat like Americans. We're also told we should bring our own shampoo.

We will each be bringing 2 suitcases. That's it. You all know I have enough shoes alone to fill 3 suitcases, so you can imagine just how much stuff we have to get rid of. Downsizing from our 2000 square foot home to a 400 square foot apartment should keep our needs basic. Our apartment is already furnished. Hence the need to sell everything we own. I think John Lennon would be proud, "Imagine no possessions, I wonder if you can?" I can. I'm dying to see what life will be like without so much STUFF. I'm over it. I held my daughter tonight and let her fall asleep in my arms...you don't need any STUFF to experience that kind of peace and beauty.

We'll have use of the school cars and public transportation. We'll have free healthcare the first year, after that our healthcare is based on our income. Cool system...I'll report more on that after I've experienced it for a while. We'll get a bonus for finishing our contract, regular pay and money from Japan for raising our kids. Lovely. We will pay taxes for the privilege of living in this lovely country. 5-7%.

Our church congregation will consist of about 60 people vs the 200-ish we worship with now. About 20 of those are Americans. They have an English translator for all of us white folks.

Adam and I are planning to work hard on our Japanese while we are on this little adventure. We're going to buy the Japanese Rosetta Stone Totale asap.

If you want to learn more about the GEM schools, you can read blogs, watch YouTube videos or visit the school's official site. Here is a link:


There are millions of reasons we are moving forward with this plan. Here are some of those reasons:

To experience another culture first hand.
To simplify our lives.
To save money.
To learn Japanese and allow our children to do the same.
To free ourselves from material possessions and the American addiction to stuff.
To be with our children more.
To reply on each other.
To learn what really matters to us.
To live our dreams.
To learn. To grow.

Everything about this plan is kind of crazy, we know that. But if it wasn't suppose to happen it wouldn't be coming together like it has been. We both feel like this is what we are supposed to be doing. Having a sense of purpose is powerfully motivating and energizing. We are a team united by a common goal, dream and purpose.

Nothing else matters. Let the evolution begin. We hope you will send your prayers and blessings our way as we undertake this massive endeavor. We promise to do our best to keep in touch to share our stories. We will post photos on Facebook, videos on YouTube and naturally I will be blogging when I can. Thank you for all your support and well-wishes.

Sunday, April 10, 2011

Love

Two of the greatest poets of our time, John Lennon and Paul McCartney, penned these immortal words, "All you need is love." I'm starting to understand what they meant. Love is great; not the kind of love that causes you to make out, but the kind of love that makes your purpose more clear and your character more refined. Love requires the very best we have to offer, half-way love is worthless. Frank Sinatra captured this concept beautifully in his poignant song, "All the Way." Whenever I need to be reminded of the kind of love I want to give, I listen to this song.


Love is not perfect; it's messy and hard sometimes. Like I said, "it requires the best in us," not because it's easy, but because sometimes it's really hard. I was discussing marriage with a friend the other day and asked her why, after 9 years of marriage, she was having such a hard time loving her husband? Her reply, "It's hard to love him when I hate him so much." It's one of those ironic realities of life. I think Gandhi put it best when he said, "Hatred can only be overcome by love." So how do you love someone you hate? This relates to marriage or any other relationship.

You let go. You stop trying to control. You forgive. You remember that no one is without faults. You consider that everyone deserves a break from time to time. You take a deep breath and you let go. Mother Teresa said, "If you judge people, you have no time to love them." Give it a try, you will find much more peace than holding on to your anger. Consider the words of Hans Nouwens, "In true love the smallest distance is too great, and the greatest distance can be bridged."

In the Bible, 1 Corinthians 13:4 it speaks of the qualities of charity. I use the words charity and love inner-changably. It says,

Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own,

is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil;

rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth; beareth all things,

believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things.

Charity never faileth."


Keep love in your heart. A life without it is like a sunless garden when the flowers are dead. The consciousness of loving and being loved brings warmth and richness to life that nothing else can bring. ~Oscar Wilde


I wish you much love, Lindsey





Saturday, February 26, 2011

Growing Up


I just got a bill for $1700 for my hospital stay when I had my pulmonary embolism last year. My brand new Mazda 6 got damaged in a recent wind storm, and the insurance companies are calling it an Act of God and won't fix it. And I need to replace the carpet in my 7 year old house. Growing up can be a drag!

These kinds of challenges come to us all in some form or another. The only thing that you can count on is that they WILL come. Your body will stop functioning properly. Your kids may develop bad habits. Your money might be tight for extended periods of time. Your family may not function as ideally as you had anticipated. You just never know. As my Mom used to say, "If it isn't one thing, it's something else." Maybe everyones' Moms say that...and they're all right.

So today, having come to terms with this reality, I'm letting it all roll off my back like water off a duck. I didn't get ready when I got up this morning. I didn't make my bed. I'm NOT doing any chores. I spent at least an hour wrestling with my girls out in the snow that fell last night. I left all our wet clothes in the middle of the living room and there they'll stay. I drank hot cocoa and ate M&M's for breakfast. I'm planning a mani/pedi for later and I may or may not do my hair before I leave the house. Ha!

We all have to grow up sooner or later. But not today. :)

Saturday, January 29, 2011

Carter's


You may be surprised to discover that my favorite store in the whole wide world is Carter's. Carter's is a huge company with outlets in nearly every state in the U.S. Carter's and Osh Kosh are owned by the same company, I love them both. These companies make high quality children's clothing, with style. Outside of cute socks, adorable dresses and comfy play clothes, my favorite things about Carter's is their marketing department. You know I'm a sucker for a company with A+ marketing efforts. Carter's gives me a new coupon every 30 days via email. They give me more coupons every time I shop in the store. They also have a very respectable customer loyalty card program; after spending $100, I get $10 off my next purchase. So when I combine sale prices, with coupons, with customer loyalty dollars I end up with lots of cute clothes and SUCH good deals.

I went to Carter's today because Mia and Teryn have starting growing out of their winter clothes. I walked out with:

6 adorable long sleeve tee's
5 pairs of pants
2 tunics
3 dresses
2 pairs of Spring capri's
and 4 pairs of socks

All for $45. The regular retail price for all of these items was $327.00

I am a very happy Mommy. I also learned today that they do double stamps on Loyalty Cards if you shop on Tuesdays. Good to know. Give it a shot, Carter's is awesome.

Sunday, January 23, 2011

Prayer

We discussed prayer at Church Sunday afternoon. I was not surprised by the number of woman who feel like their prayers aren't being answered. I admit that sometimes I feel the same way. But, I have a fundamental belief that flies in the face of this premise. I believe that God, our Heavenly Father always hears and answers our prayers. The trouble is our ability to recognize those answers for what they are. I can illustrate this point with a story from my life. When I was 20 I started to pray for a baby. I didn't actually have a baby for 5 years, and when she was born she was so premature that she died an hour later. Were my prayers answered? Yes, they were answered by a loving Father who knows what I need better than I do. His answer was "no." His answer was "wait." His answer was, "'Having' a baby may not be what you had in mind." His answer was, "I have things in mind to teach you that don't involve babies right now." And so it is with each of us.

I think we human beings think that if we don't get the answer we want, or we don't see angels then our prayers aren't being answered. Sometimes finding the answers just requires a little bit of meditation on our part, and perspective. Today I'm meditating and trying to gain perspective on prayer itself...so I look for all the wisdom I can gather on the subject.

Prayer is handled in a variety of different ways across the world. Many Christians say the same prayer every day, The Lord's Prayer, as recorded in the Bible. It is beautiful.

The Lord's Prayer Words



Our Father, who art in heaven,
hallowed be thy name.
Thy Kingdom come,
thy will be done,
on earth as it is in heaven
Give us this day our daily bread.
And forgive us our trespasses,
as we forgive those who trespass against us.
And lead us not into temptation,
but deliver us from evil.
For thine is the kingdom,

the power and the glory,

for ever and ever.

Amen.


Muslims say 5 Obligatory Prayers each day. These prayers are also beautiful, here is an example of a daily Muslim prayer.


God is great. (x4)
I bear witness that there are none worthy of worship except God. (x2)
I bear witness that Muhammad is the Messenger of God. (x2)
Come to prayer. (x2)
Come to felicity. (x2)
[Fajr only] Prayer is better than sleep. (x2)
[Iqama only] Our prayers are now ready. Our prayers are now ready. (x2)
God is great. (x2)
There is none worthy of worship except God.



Buddhists pray, however, "the purpose of Buddhist prayer is to awaken our inherent inner capacities of strength, compassion and wisdom rather than to petition external forces based on fear, idolizing, and worldly and/or heavenly gain. Buddhist prayer is a form of meditation; it is a practice of inner reconditioning. Buddhist prayer replaces the negative with the virtuous and points us to the blessings of Life." I'm a big fan of strength, compassion and wisdom...I hope to have more of all those things on a daily basis.


My favorite author, Carol Lynn Pearson wrote a poem called Prayer:


This radio set

Called prayer

Is designed

For remarkably

Simple repair.

When the lines fail

There is no doubt

Which half

Of the set

Is out.



Friday, January 14, 2011

Strength and Energy


It seems that there is a gimmick for everything these days; berry juice can give you vitality and health, Box "rescue remedy" can ease stress, you can even get "Slim in Six" days, etc. Today I learned about a new product on the market for gaining more strength and energy. The I-Renew bracelet is available everywhere, even Best Buy apparently, for $19.99. It claims to give the wearer more strength and energy. I bet they'll sell a billion of these bracelets, including 2 they sold my husband.

I'm no RN, and I don't have a ton of experience with anatomy and physiology, but here are my favorite ways to gain more strength and energy:




Lindsey's Top 10 Suggestions for Gaining More Strength and Energy
1. Lift Weights
2. Play with children
3. Get a good night sleep
4. Eat as if it was 1920
5. Take a multivitamin
6. Get a chiropractic adjustment
7. Drink plenty of water, NOT soda
8. Spend some time in sunshine and fresh air
9. Eat less sugar
10. Laugh


I'm not saying I'm great at doing all those things, but when I do them, they are sure-fire ways to improve my strength and energy. I'm not so sure a $20 bracelet will. I guess we'll see. I'd love to know your thoughts about the bracelet if you've tried it. In the meantime, drink some water. :)

Tuesday, January 4, 2011

Art



















I love art. Albert Hubbard once said, "Art is not a thing, it is a way." I have always wished that creating art was more a part of my way. I've embraced art in different ways over the years. I've played the cello, written books, danced, painted, taken photographs, sung, and designed aesthetic environments. Despite my experiences I've never really considered myself an artist.

I want my daughters to experience art, to create art and to be artists. Art is an important form of self-expression and I want to introduce them to as many forms as possible until they find the forms they love. With that goal in mind, I took a few hours and facilitated the girls (ages 2 and 3) creating their first paintings. Their final pieces are above. I love them. They bring me so much joy every time I walk past them. My girls did not do what I asked them to do. They mixed colors and used different brushes than I intend, but I let them do it their way. I wanted to see what would emerge from inside of them. Minnie Mouse once said in an episode of Mickey Mouse Clubhouse, "There's no right or wrong, when it comes to making art. Making sure that you have fun is the most important part." I'm pretty sure my kids had fun, I did too; the kind of fun I need to indulge in more often.